Comments on: How To Handle A School Yard Bully

By: Stacie

Stacie — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:20:00 +0000

In my exoperience, the only way to beat a bully is to literally Beat them up. I had a problem in school with some girls. Followed the system and the some girls turned into the whole grade. I got the ring leader alone in a toilet and gave her the flogging of her life. Nobody touched me after that.

By: Sue

Sue — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 16:47:15 +0000

I am a single mother of two boys. I changed my sons school this year. My son (7yo) just told me that he is being bullied at school. I have no idea how to deal with the situation. But I have to agree with Angie and Katie, school officials never admit they have a ‘bully’ problem at their school, let alone do something about it. I work therefore I can not be present at their school every time thsi situation occurs, how can I suggest to my son that I WILL be there to protect him. And Mark you have nailed it this is all about bad parenting…..I wonder whether the parents of bullies are bullies too.

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 05:05:58 +0000

I am 42 years old, and grew up in rural Pa. I myself was a victim of school bullys’ behavior. that was the primary reason I joined the Army, and subsequently volunteered for airborne and Ranger schools. I graduated both. I admit I was hard on my children early on, to toughen them up so if they encountered bullies, they would have the fortitude to stand up for themselves. I remember when my step-daughter was 6, a neighborhood bully walked into our yard, took her toy away and punched her in the face, he was 11. I walked out into the yard, grabbed him by the shirt, and dragged him across the street to meet his father. I told his father, ” Your son just punched my 6 year old little girl in the head, are you going to beat his a** or am I going to beat yours? That little boy turned out to be an honor student and Eagle scout, and is a manager at a local store now, but he got his a** beat that day! we are too politically correct, in my day if you did something out of line, you got whooped, but you respected adults, your peers, and knew right from wrong. My son watched a child about age 7 at wal mart when he was 12 knock everything off the bubble gum shelf in a fit of rage at the register because the childs mother told him he couldn’t have what he wanted. I jokeingly asked my son, loud enough for that mother to hear, if he knew why I let him live to be 12, He replyed, of course, I didn’t act like him when I was his age, lol. I hear so many mothers complain their children don’t listen to them or respect them, they try to blame everything on the planet except the real cause.. bad parenting !

By: Katie

Katie — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 14:46:04 +0000

I would just like to echo what Angie (31 July 2009) said. I would like to know what steps to take after the bullies have been spoken to and the problem continues. I would also like to know what you can do if you’re not satisfied with the school’s response – what then. My experience revolves around a primary school girl being “picked” on by a handful of girls. The issue was brought to the attention of the teacher, all involved sat down and each girl was given an opportunity to say what it was they didn’t like about the ‘victim’ and the teacher certainly gave this child the impression that she agreed that she had brought this unwanted attention upon herself (whether she said so in as many words is difficult to ascertain as no other adults were present). The victim felt brow beaten and not up to responding nor was she able to adequately defend herself in this totally unbalanced situation. Not surprisingly the bullying is continuing and I suspect is worse given that the ‘bullies’ now feel that they’re somewhat justified as the teacher did not take a strong enough stand initially. It makes me extremely angry to put a victimised child in this totally unacceptable situation. What should be the next step – I would like to see some unbiased counseling provided – where can this be sourced? Is it even possible?

By: Angie

Angie — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 14:46:57 +0000

My child has had three big experiences with bullies. I have followed your advice here in this article. However, these bullies did not change. They kept it up. In fact, two have every since he has been at the school district he is currently in. The principal and counselor is well aware of the two bullies. In fact, my child and I have told everyone about these situations and they continue. Your article falls short of the next steps to take beyond telling! I am very upset over some of these situations. I talked to one counselor about it and her reply was that something was wrong with my child because he was being bullied. I said No there is not!! It is not my child’s fault! It is the bullie who needs counseling! This bully advice has been written and re-written the same way for decades. Some new research on changing the bully needs to be undertaken and more well thought out answers and solutions need to be provided to teachers, principles and most importantly the bullies parents.

By: MarjakaThriver

MarjakaThriver — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 20:14:05 +0000

Thanks for allowing us to use this excellent post for The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. The April edition is now up.